Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.”

Hey everyone! So I was reading my bible guide one day and on that day the topic was the heart being the center of human life, both physically, spiritual and emotionally. Immediately, this verse stuck out to me, because it made so much sense. I am a Christian, brought up in a Christian household; but as I age, I find myself being more spiritual and more understanding of how multifaceted this world truly is.

Growing up in a Christian household would always make me adhere to those values. It’s a part of who I am and it’s what I find that works best for me; however, I do acknowledge and appreciate what other religions have to say. I mean after all, knowledge is power and I would rather have better knowledge and understanding of different things and situations so that I am better equipped and prepared for whatever situation was to arise in life.

Religion is just a story told in different formats  at the end of the day, it’s all about love, love for God and mankind, which brings me back to the verse at hand  “Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.” As said earlier, the heart is the source of human life and as such, it should be treated with the utmost care not just physically but spiritually and emotionally (relationships) too. There are two major things I believe should be taken into account when in a relationship and they are:

  1. Your Heart
  2. The Other Persons Heart


When faced with the hurdles life has thrown at you, you find that in those hurdles are a lot of hurt, pain, anger and disappointments just to name a few. If we let them fester, it usually causes us to harden our hearts towards new people or experiences. What we fail to realize is that a hardened heart cannot love or receive love; the same way you can’t get what you don’t put out, is the same way you can’t receive love if you don’t know how to give it. These are part of the fundamentals to ANY relationship, spiritual or otherwise.

From my own understanding, Proverbs 4:23 is basically telling us that despite all the hurdles of life, we shouldn’t harden our hearts instead we should guard it because experience has taught you what to look for and what to avoid. You have to watch and pray, and most of all… never stop loving. Do not let everybody suffer for someone else’s actions.


Unfortunately, this part gets overlooked quite a bit in relationships because it is human nature to be self-inclined, knowingly or unknowingly. In such scenarios, what happens most of the time is that you find one person doing the giving and the other person doing the taking. That in no way is mutualism, and as we learnt in biology class, a mutualistic relationship is the best type of relationship where both organisms involved are giving and taking from each other.

When it comes to the other person’s heart, you have to handle it the same way you would handle your own, if not better (that is if the person is deserving of it). You always have to keep them in mind, think about how your actions or words would affect them, think before you do anything because if you break heart (male or female, mother or child) you will have to live with that burden and it really is just not worth it.

I hope this helps someone that needs it. Stay healthy and stay blessed!

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