Today’s topic is an interesting one, its about relationships… I seem to be doing quite a bit of that lately huh? perhaps its because I have been making a lot of observations of late and I’ve noticed quite a few things I would like to share.
Men and women want different things, it is only natural seeing as how we are wired differently; but seeing as how a relationship is the intersection of both man and woman… how then can we cater to the fundamentals of the our significant other in order to have a functioning partnership? Where can we find common ground? Well, we can find common ground in the fact that both parties want these two things LOVE and RESPECT.
Men want to be respected, and women want to be cherished/loved. I find that this is always the case in functioning long lasting relationships, I have watched closely how people who have healthy relationships interact and found that the men are highly respected by their spouse and the women in turn are cherished/loved with fervor.
Ephesians 5:33: However, each one of you must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.
In Ephesians 5:33 it is clearly stated, the whole verse talks about the importance of this (Ephesians 5:22-33). I think even if you aren’t married,this is important to note going into a relationship. Why? because women have to choose a man worth respecting and men have to choose a woman worth loving and also relationships ultimately lead to marriage so its important to start laying the foundation on how to threat each other early. That is what dating is for, dating gives you that time to find the person you will submit the rest of your life to and such drastic life decisions take time! It shouldn’t be rushed.
It is already in our nature as women to love, that is a given… what we need learn to do is to RESPECT, and in the same way it is already in a mans nature to respect… what he needs to learn is to LOVE. So it is like opposites attracting to teach each other the nature of their being. I hope I’m making sense,lol!
If these two things are the fundamentals of your relationship all else will follow because there is a balance, she will in turn love you because you have shown her you are worthy of her respect and he will respect you because you have shown him you are worthy of his love. So basically, relationships/marriage is just a prolonged teachable moment. If i’m confusing you, please feel free to ask me questions in the comment section down below. I hope this helps, Lord knows we are all learning and He is there to guide us as we go :).
Here are a 5 tips on how to make a woman feel loved:
- Be enthusiastic over things that she’s excited about.
- Discuss changes with her first before you make them.
- Do things that make you laugh together.
- Act like you are partners in all areas life.
- Don’t take her for granted.
5 Tips on how to make a man feel respected:
- Let him know he’s important to you.
- Show him that you trust him.
- Give him some space for his hobbies.
- Express appreciation for his hard work.
- Show interest in what he feels is important in life.
Til next time